In real terms the ability to be resilient is at the heart of leadership. Without resilience you can waver. However, if you can be like the bamboo and sway in the wind until you regain your centredness then you are more likely to survive when the waves crash in.
Being centred means not spending too long crashing against the wall or melting down when too many things become out of control. It is the ability to quickly get to your centred self that makes the difference. We all have to admire those who have acquired and developed their resilient selves. They bounce back quickly.
Resilience is also linked to awareness and self-awareness and identifying emotional control as part of emotional intelligence (Goleman & Boyatzis). For instance, this means self-regulation – the ability to control yourself and think before you act. In other words control your emotions.
Awareness of the signs that are leading us off track is important. It maybe irritability; it might be quick temperedness; or it might be feeling tearful or aspects of depression. All of which are signs that all is not well at this moment.
So what can we do to find our centred selves? Ask yourself is this permanent or just short-term? This makes a big difference as if it is short term then it may be part of a ‘plug-in and lead’ whilst stressed on a short-term basis. That way you know it won’t last and you will step out of this period of activity. However, if it is on-going then you have some serious questions to ask yourself.
First, be aware of the signs and honestly identify them so as not to be in denial. We all have different signs. Be aware of your own signs. Second, ask for help in order to get support. Talk to friends. Three, find some relaxation techniques, practice mindfulness; exercises; quiet space; long walks; listen to music. Manage your ‘energy’ in everyday situations.
Finally, learn the lessons appropriate to the set of circumstances. Developing resilience is a major part of leadership.